The internet is full of stuff. It’s full of writing, articles, videos, opinions, blogs, media. I have read adoption blogs, written by adoptive parents. I have read the blogs of parents with a disabled child. I have read the blogs of a person’s experience. And it is not to say that we need less of those; we don’t. It’s just to say that the Internet has, or our society has, created a place or identity or community for queer people, and adoptive parents, and disability parents, but a smaller community for the “children” in question, of any age.
There are so many adoptive parents that speak about how their child is adopted, or their experience adopting, but so many fewer adoptees speak out about their experience. It’s become less common, but many adoptees have parts of their past hidden from them, or not told them they are adopted. This is often done out of fear by the adoptive parents, a valid fear, but one that can affect an adoptee in a really heavy way.
The children of queer people do not have a community really, or a clear identity, but there are way more of us (I am one) than most think. We are not all babies, and we have some light to share in the LGBT+ community. It is not that queerspawn should speak for queer people, if they are not queer themselves, but rather that queerspawn is an identity of its own, that can be developed. Rather that different kinds of families and sharing one’s experience should be developed.
Many disabled people can speak for themselves. Many have. Yet still the organization Autism Speaks has a board with no autistic people, only family members of autistic people.
I suppose the reason that the three groups of people I have listed do not make themselves as heard is that whatever most perceive as different about our lives is “our normal”, it’s just living. But there are hardships that make us unique that are not addressed. It is not extraordinary to us, but even still it is an identity.
These are just thoughts. Have a great week.