Though I have always known that one mom is my biological mom and my other mom is my adoptive mom, I do not talk about being adopted with my parents, and I think they would rather me not refer to myself as an adoptee, though I like to.
I don't quite fit into the adoptive community. I looks like my (biological) mom am and the same race as her. And I don't know my sperm donor (biological dad). I am indeed adopted, but because it's only one parent, I refer to myself as "half adopted". Half adopted kids aren't people who "get" to discuss adoption, as most of us live with one of our biological parents.
I am questioning my sexuality, but I don't quite fit in the LGBT+ community. Queerspawn are not the ones who had to come out and we don't deal with the same kind of homophobia and transphobia as our queer parents did. Queerspawn are not people who usually "get" to talk about the queer identity, because not all of us our queer. And for me especially, I have been so lucky that I don't experience and have not experienced bullying or homophobia because of my family, though I do keep quiet about it. For me, it is normal.
Being the child of lesbians or LGBT+ people is a young identity, it is one you don't hear about, and it is an identity often associated with babies. But there are older queerspawn and there are a lot of us.
Just as many of the adoptees in the adopted community aren't heard as much as the adoptive parents, so too LGBT+ parents are heard from more than their children. And I am hopeful that someday queerspawn will have a place in a community, even if it is a place in their own.
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Sorry that this post is late and that I've been inactive for a while.
Have a great day.
-M